Not ready to move yet? No worries, you start where you are, nowhere else…
Life sells us stories, drives us towards change. But what if change is too scary for the body right now? What if life threw too much at you, so your ‘System of Self’ cannot even endure a conversation about someone else’s holiday? Does this make you a bad or selfish person, NEVER! It means your cup is so full that it cannot even receive a pleasant, happy story. In response to such a story a whole array of responses might occur, longing, sorrow, grief, rage, resentment, hateful thoughts, envy, jealousy, and even the wishing of pain for them. Don’t worry about it. Best advice I have is this, just stop listening to people for a while, it’s okay to do that.
You may have been unsafe for so long, all any suffering is telling you is to seek safety, right now, if you can. This is one truth that you must own. I too, was unsafe for a really long time. I felt like no one cared during those years of lived crises. I felt alone, and now I choose to be alone, until I am ready to rejoin this world in the ways that I decide for myself. You are allowed to make choices, although you might not like some of the ones you are forced to make by a rather bruised body and mind. Let yourself find a little solace in the notion that everything really is temporary, and given time, the pain will lessen, as will the flashbacks and intolerance to anything perhaps outside of your home. Give yourself time, give yourself a little Tender Loving Care…
The T.L.C. Playlists were created for your safety, in such a way you can avoid scrolling through reels of mixed-quality content, and know that what you are choosing to experience is going to be serving your recovery efforts. Here is a full list of the playlists available, with extended video banks free to explore on the YouTube Channel:
As I wrote this introduction, I just felt as though something was missing, so I typed some words I’ve already forgotten into a search engine, and the first video was this one. It felt like perfectly timed divine intervention, see if you agree…
*Video contains short bursts of flashing images and a few flashes of injured people. I advise listening but not watching if you are particularly vulnerable. There are also references to illegal substances, but within the context of medicinal use.
**Another healing remedy to look into is niacin therapy.
Bessel van der Kolk is a reliable, thoughtful healer, and a safe person, in my opinion, I’ve read two of his books and checked in with his research over the years. Just as I have the works of Gabor Mate and Brené Brown, all are on the forefront of cutting edge psychological, physiological, energetic medical research. There are of course many others out there innovating, but I do recommend reading with a warning, sometimes reading can hurt, trigger, and force the subconscious into the conscious, which can become a hellish place to live. Don’t force your healing, don’t go into your injuries before you are ready. The best thing to do is seek safety, nothing can be rebuilt without it.
Time to help yourself…
The truth is, many of us expect help to show up when we need it to. Likely, the world has made it pretty hard for anyone to truly show up for you these days. We cannot foresee a future that is fogged by physical health scares, mass-declines in mental health, and food that makes us metaphorically deaf, dumb and stupid.
The truth is, there are no heroes. No one is coming. You can of course ask for help, but now that so many human beings are suffering acutely, the sad reality is, I think there may be too many people to recover via a 1:1 support system. But do not fear, you hold so much power in your choices; unfortunately, choosing the right things when your cognitive functioning is impaired can become very challenging, which is why we recommend the book, Recovery Foundations, to anyone trying to recover from darker times.
