“Everything you already are is perfectly okay.
Come join me in accepting yourself, just as you come.”
A letter from me to you:
Dearest reader,
There is a growing lifeline here on this website, a lifeline of self-compassion found in self work. When the world tries to make you think of yourself as anything less than acceptable, it creates a story inside of your body and mind, one that it feeds on until you die.
I am here to write new stories, not everyone will like what I say, but being liked has never really been a concern of mine, although being understood has. I like to explain things well, usually because any conflict resolution comes from clear communication and a compassionate understanding of where The Other is coming from.
This world contains so much conflict, I’ve seen it begin on the playground in primary school – yes, I was a teacher once; and having graduated first in my class at university, I am well versed in child development; teaching and learning strategies; as well as particular areas of special educational needs, which can (in my book) include PTSD, depression, selective mutism, and other lesser targeted emotional needs; I am also an avid fan of communicating boundaries and clear expectations for behaviour that seems to naturally flow into harmony.
I have nurtured and sustained harmonious tiny communities many a time, and I class it as my forte to love your children, as well as you, the parents and/or carers. It is my forte, but it is not something I have found to be valued or very much treasured as the gift I am born to share and bestow upon others as I work. Therefore, I decided to make peace with feeling rejected by the world, and embraced the becoming of this thing I was born to be – love.
For now, I write for the adults here on this platform, since you are the gateway to the tiny humans, who I love more than anything, since their light fills up days with sunshine and splendour. Watch out for powerful resources and tools to support you on becoming a happier version of yourself, and thus a happier parent (if you are one). This is important to model for your kids, for they have been born to a world so complicated and bursting in fear mongering, that to protect their mind has to become the new priority in raising them well.
The lessons you learn for yourself will become applicable to those tiny minds and bodies too, and I will eventually be producing a lot more for the kids. But as I tell those I work with… Slow and steady, be gentle with yourself. I will get there, and I hope you are there with me when I do.
Now a little about me…
“Rather than tell you about who I was, I prefer to share with the world the woman I’ve become, for she holds more wisdom in her stories than the one who came before.”
“I have changed so much for the better, I suffer less, enjoy life more, love and cry with equal freedom, and choose myself each and every day… which means I get to choose to support you too.”
“I am here to serve, to support, to see your sorrow and pain because I know what it means to suffer – and I don’t want anybody to feel as alone as I felt in my darkest hour.”
“At a time when life called for it, my body and mind became necessary priorities… and when I focused on these two aspects of self, the rest of my life seemed to brighten up too. Self-care is self-love.”
“There is nothing wrong with a little sadness. But when you are sad more often than you are in any other state it can become debilitating. I learned that to cry meant to release… let it out, I say.”
“There are so many ways to release your inner world and relieve yourself of the strain it imposes on your life. Dance, draw, paint, sing, scream even, just let it out. It’s so important to let it out.”
“A simple life beckons me. I desire nothing much beyond the meeting of my basic needs. This world is mad in its busyness and I don’t want much to be a part of it anymore. I want peace, love, harmony and hope, beyond any other state of being.”
“Gratitude showed me the way home. To be grateful for each easy breath I take, for the sustaining of my life with nutritious food, for clean drinking water. These are all things I came to value, for not every person on earth has access to them.”
“A hot bath became a privilege to me as I travelled the world and observed the tremendous array of life being lived in variety. There is no right way to live life, only ever life being lived. I find respect for life in all its forms.”
A few more of my likes and interests…
“Why am I anonymous? Because I choose to be. My world is mine and I rather like the idea of being an enigma. Plus, my stories are intertwined with those of other people, and another person’s stories will never be mine to tell. I’ll let you all know who I am in my own time, maybe after my kids have grown, maybe when I’m dead, maybe not even then. I do not desire fame, fortune and all it comes with, least of all the invasion of privacy, especially for my children. Just because the world likes to know things, doesn’t mean it has a right to.
I am protecting myself, my family, my friends and I hope you all support me here and respect my choice to remain invisible. It’s my safe space, one that took half a lifetime to discover, and that’s not easily compromised on when you need safety as a way of life. And I don’t want to experience any unnecessary pain, I just choose to be safe in a world that makes it hard to be so, and do indeed encourage you to contemplate your own safety in this growing wild of the modern era. Thank you for accepting me as I come, with only a hand in the public eye – the rest of me is only mine to know.”
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